Letting Go of Our Plans

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”

— Joseph Campbell

We all start out life with ideas about what our life ultimately will look like. And those plans, obviously, don’t envision the bumps in the road or the tragedies that each of us inevitably will face. We picture the future, we see only love, success and great friendships.

But if you’ve been on this earth for any significant amount of time, you know that life doesn’t go according to plan. Instead, we make our plans, and then we encounter the unexpected.

Once you accept that fact of life, believe it or not, it is liberating. You don’t have to live under the false idea that the whole world has it easier than you do. They don’t. (Into each life a little rain will fall.)

And once you accept that no one’s life goes according to plan, then the difference between successful and unsuccessful people becomes clear: Successful people are good at handling disappointment.

It is reasonable to experience pain at the time of a loss. However, it isn’t reasonable to keep reliving that loss over and over again. God didn’t give us the ability to wake up this morning in order to feel the pain of an experience that we had 10, 15, or 20 years ago.

I don’t know why God allows us to suffer. These are questions I cannot answer. For instance, I don’t know why my first marriage ended in divorce. And why my parents had a terrible marriage which led to my having a chaotic and stressful upbringing.

But all of that is in the past. My present is a life with a wonderful second husband, a great daughter, an inspiring church family and, so far, good health. I have a mini-zoo in my home, with a dog, a cat, and a dwarf bunny, all of whom provide me with amusement and affection.

I don’t need to dwell on the past. In fact, in some respects, my life has gone better than I ever could have planned. God has had a funny way of turning my negatives into positives. I’ve just had to stay faithful through His process.

If you have disappointments or tragedies from your past that you are still holding on to, let them go. No one’s life goes according to plan. We all have periods of pain and suffering in our lives. That is part of being alive and on this earth. So don’t allow your past to define who you are. If you woke up this morning, then God has blessed you with another day to enjoy and savor. Make the most of it.

By Meerabelle Dey